Thursday, March 28, 2013

The Kiss on The Cover.

"Are you guys comfortable kissing in front of the camera?"

"Sure, I mean, we are married." That's what I said out loud to the photographer who posed this question to me Monday morning on the 23rd floor of the Time Life Building. But my internal conversation went something like this. "They will never choose us anyway. They'll go with a guy couple. Or with Portia and Ellen. Not with me and Sarah. On the cover of Time Magazine. That would just be... INSANE!"

So we kissed. I mean. We are married. Even if it's only recognized in New York State and 8 others. This week The Supreme Court hear's opening arguments to repeal Prop 8 and DOMA. They're talking about MY CIVIL RIGHTS. And I'm showing up.

We're fighting for ourselves. But we're also fighting for our family. And for every single family that has a gay person in it. Most families have at least one these days. Even Honey Boo Boo has a gay uncle.

Joking aside, there are kids who get bullied every single day because of who they are. Some of these kids take their own lives because they think they're all alone and there's nobody else out there just like them. They think they will never have a family. I want them to see my life and my family, and I want them to know that they can have that too.

So while the cover of Time Magazine may give some people a little jolt this morning, I'm kissing my wife on the cover because the mother of a gay kid might see it and finally come around to letting her son or daughter back in the house. I'm kissing my wife on the cover because it's time for every American to have their civil rights.

And, let's be honest, I'm kissing my wife on the cover because Portia and Ellen probably weren't available...



  1. Bravo! Excellently delivered and "straight" to the always!

  2. Maybe if the far right knew that we don't fight for just ourselves but for those you don't have a voice yet or who can't have a voice yet because they are fighting to just stay alive, they would realize just how important it is to be equal and validated. Beautiful Cover!

  3. Shannon, that's exactly why! Exactly.

  4. And here I thought you were kissing her on the cover because she's hot. :-)

  5. What a life! So cool!

  6. Hey, Kristen. Congratulations on the cover, from a fellow late-80s Bucknellian. I remember seeing your band play on campus back then. Anyway, it's great to see you and your wife publicly representing for marriage equality. Cheers! (Sean Anderson '89)

  7. The picture is so beautiful!! I think you guys give Portia and Ellen a run for their money!

  8. It's an awesome picture. Until I saw the post about it on lesbian family I assumed it was models posing. (I live in NZ and haven't seen that copy of Time here). Super cool that you are a genuine married lesbian couple. Hooray. Gay marriage is on the agenda here too, and passed its 2nd reading in parliament recently. I look forward to reading more of your blog. I'm not sure my blog name will show up, I'm pepibebe over at wordpress.

  9. Congrats on all your success, Kristen.
    And so much fun to see you and your band rock!