So. One day I was vacationing with Sarah and friends in this little enclave in Maine. I can't remember the name of the town, because I forget things regularly now. But I bet some of you will know the name of it. We stayed at a Bed & Breakfast that named rooms after gay celebrities. We were in the Jodie Foster Suite. I swear to god. They had a framed photo of her up in our room. It was. I mean. I can't even.
Anyway. It was a beautiful summer beach town and we were with friends. Does that last sentence require any commas? We might not have stayed in the nicest place in town, but it was only one night. We ate lobsters, we laughed, we were just happy to be together, regardless of the damp framed photos of Jodie and Lilly Tomlin hanging in our rooms. As we sat on the water drinking cocktails, we reminisced about early friendships we'd all had. You know. Before we realized we were gay. As we compared stories, we found we had something in common. Just prior to our first gay relationship, we all had an extremely intense "friendship" with a woman that ended with a big, disastrous, friendship-ending, blow out of a fight. We could barely recall what the friendship-ending, blow out of a fight was even about all these years later. All we could remember was that the next thing we knew, we were all gay.
Isn't that funny? All four of us had the same experience!
So, I decided to start calling that friendship, the one just before your first gay relationship that ends with a disastrous and dramatic blow up, a fresbian relationship.
So as not to alienate all of my straight readers, it's possible to be straight and have a fresbian relationship. Or is that alienating you even more? Regardless, to all my straight readers, think back...maybe you've been a fresbian to someone! Tell us all about it here in the comments section of 'Hangin' With Hendo!'
I don't want to hear that you and your friends came up with that word already. Because you didn't. I did. And I even submitted my definition to Urban Dictionary.com, where they have other, albeit incorrect, definitions of the term fresbian. So, I am asking all of you to click on the link I will provide at the bottom of this blog, and go give MY definition a thumbs up. I input my definition using a fake name. I'm not sure why I did that. But I did. My fake name is BoysOnTheSide, after the movie that was chock full of fresbians. So go on and give my definition a thumbs up.
Happy (NYC) Gay Pride Weekend,
fyi, my definition as it reads on UrbanDictionary.com:
Fresbian defines the intense friendship a lesbian has with her girl friends before realizing she is actually a lesbian. A fresbian relationship usually ends with an intense, and somewhat irrational blow up or break up of the friendship.
Jane couldn't understand the jealous feelings she had when her best friend, Carly, went with Jason to the prom. She was so upset by it, she drove to the prom, made a scene and ended their friendship. It wasn't until four years later when Jane was finally in a lesbian relationship with Dawn that she understood she had been in an intense fresbian relationship with Carly.